Wednesday, July 20, 2011

PeoplePleasing


Sometimes (okay, I admit, "most times") when I write this blog I really censor who I am and I am very careful about what I say and how I say it.  I do this for three reasons: 

A.  I don't want to offend anyone
B.  I don't want anyone to think poorly of me
C.  I want people to like me

I have to admit that there are people in my life that when I am in their presence my guts get all twisted up and I lose all sense of who I am.  I basically turn into a nauseous, stammering idiot or a stand-up comedian.  (Personally I believe I play the role of the stammering idiot quite well; but I could use some pointers as a comedian...)

Why am I telling you this?  I'm not really sure; but I have been thinking some lately about my need to please others--you all included.  I have often wondered why I do this blogging if I don't feel free to say what I really want to say or say it how I want to say it... I guess I just have hope that one day I will be comfortable enough with who I was created to be and just write whatever I feel led to write.  I can't wait!  I hope it happens in my life time...

Anyway, back to PEOPLE PLEASING....



People Pleasers …
  1. People pleasers take most criticism personally (Yup I do that and then I ruminate about what they  said over and over and over...)
  2. People pleasers feel an extraordinary fear of rejection. (Yup!  Rejection sucks!--I try to avoid it at all costs.  I will do most anything for 'ya if you promise to let me hang around for a while...)
  3. People pleasers have a hard time saying "No" (Like I said in #2 I'll do most anything for you...)
  4. People pleasers find it hard to express their true feelings because they don’t want to hurt others (Oh, ya...now we're talking!  I would rather choke on my words rather than speak (or write) them and risk offending...)  
So what is a PEOPLE PLEASER to do? 
Consider the following:
  • Becoming obsessed about what others think about you is the fastest way to forget what God thinks about you.
OUCH!  (and that's all I have to say...)


(I stole some of my information from the following spot)


"The art of pleasing is the art of deception".

Marquis De Vauvenargues







Sunday, July 17, 2011

The Sound of Silence


On Friday afternoon my husband and I brought our elderly toy poodle, Sam, to the vet to have him, "put to sleep..."  It was an incredibly difficult event and it affected me far more than I anticipated. 

Sam had been part of our household for many years and had been born with a bad back.  We watched him decline over the past six months and knew the inevitable was coming.  In fact we had cancelled two previous "appointments"  as I was not yet prepared to let him go.

It has been distressingly quiet in our home since he left.  You wouldn't think that a 10# poodle would make much noise... He did some barking, some growling, some sniffing, a lot of licking, occassional cat chasing, and his toenails clicked as he walked across the floor.  But these are not the noises I miss so deeply.

Sam was always a part of my quiet, my solitude, and my thoughtful spots...

I am missing the "sound" of his being, his breathing, his inertia...

The All of him that really had no "audible sound".....the part of him that whispered to me; comforted me.  The part of him that "shushed" my loneliness.  The part of him that told me to "get over it" when I felt anger or resentful.  The part of him that argued with me that I should rest with him when I was tired. 

I miss the quiet of Sam that spoke to my heart...
  


Silence is also speech. ~Proverb

















Thursday, July 7, 2011

Birds & Horses

My husband recently told me that I needed to get back to blogging.  I guess I agree with him.  He seems to think that it is tHEriPeUtiC for me.  And perhaps it is.

However, I have had several people tell me that they enjoy reading my blog, even though they, "can't always figure out what I am talking about"...  I find this a little disturbing and to tell you the truth, it has kept me from posting lately. 

I worry and obsess about what other people think or how someone may or may not interpret what I am trying to say.  But I vow to get over myself and blog despite all you other birds and horses out there...  


 I am going to end this with Birthday greetings to my niece Jenna Ann.     “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” 
  ~Dr. Seuss
Happy Birthday!  Happy Birthday!! 
Happy Birthday!!! 


"Did you ever see an unhappy horse?  Did you ever see a bird that had the blues?  One reason that birds and horses are not unhappy is that they are not trying to impress other birds and horses"  ~Dale Carnegie