Sometimes (okay, I admit, "most times") when I write this blog I really censor who I am and I am very careful about what I say and how I say it. I do this for three reasons:
A. I don't want to offend anyone
B. I don't want anyone to think poorly of me
C. I want people to like me
I have to admit that there are people in my life that when I am in their presence my guts get all twisted up and I lose all sense of who I am. I basically turn into a nauseous, stammering idiot or a stand-up comedian. (Personally I believe I play the role of the stammering idiot quite well; but I could use some pointers as a comedian...)
Why am I telling you this? I'm not really sure; but I have been thinking some lately about my need to please others--you all included. I have often wondered why I do this blogging if I don't feel free to say what I really want to say or say it how I want to say it... I guess I just have hope that one day I will be comfortable enough with who I was created to be and just write whatever I feel led to write. I can't wait! I hope it happens in my life time...
Anyway, back to PEOPLE PLEASING....
People Pleasers …
- People pleasers take most criticism personally (Yup I do that and then I ruminate about what they said over and over and over...)
- People pleasers feel an extraordinary fear of rejection. (Yup! Rejection sucks!--I try to avoid it at all costs. I will do most anything for 'ya if you promise to let me hang around for a while...)
- People pleasers have a hard time saying "No" (Like I said in #2 I'll do most anything for you...)
- People pleasers find it hard to express their true feelings because they don’t want to hurt others (Oh, ya...now we're talking! I would rather choke on my words rather than speak (or write) them and risk offending...)
Consider the following:
- Becoming obsessed about what others think about you is the fastest way to forget what God thinks about you.
(I stole some of my information from the following spot)
"The art of pleasing is the art of deception".
Marquis De Vauvenargues